026: Fatherhood odyssey: Homework struggles

July 11, 2020 00:14:42
026: Fatherhood odyssey: Homework struggles
Inner Work with Steli Efti
026: Fatherhood odyssey: Homework struggles

Jul 11 2020 | 00:14:42


Show Notes

Being a dad also means dealing with a lot of mundane little issues. Things like making sure your kids do their homework.

To be honest—I’m not big on homework myself. I was terrible at school. I don’t think school is a great preparation for life.

But I do strive to look at mundane little issues and ask: What’s an important life lesson that’s contained in here? What’s something meaningful that I can pass on to my sons?

Recently, my eldest son kept saying he’ll do his homework later. Inevitably, the day turned into night, with not enough time left to actually do the homework.

Not only did it mean he wouldn’t be able to present his homework, it also affected his little brother and me, because we didn’t get to spend some quality time playing together.

My eldest son very much comes after me. When he realizes that he failed at something, he can be very hard on himself.

On the one hand, I want him to set high standards for himself and strive to live up to them. On the other hand, I don’t want him to beat himself up. I want him to learn the lesson and use it to become a better version of himself. I want him to cherish his wins and learn from his mistakes.

In this episode, I’ll share

Finding the right balance between self-discipline and self-compassion is a challenge I’ve been grappling with myself, so I’m not surprised to see this in my son. Hopefully, he’ll learn this much earlier than I did.

As always, I’d love to hear from you. Drop a comment here https://steliefti.com/fatherhood-odyssey-homework-struggles/

Other Episodes

Episode 0

January 15, 2021 00:41:09
Episode Cover

039: Intimate art, loving playfulness, and my secret guitar

A few weeks ago, I ordered a guitar. I spent most of my teenage years chasing the dream of becoming the world's best guitarist,...


Episode 0

August 15, 2021 00:23:12
Episode Cover

094: Fatherhood Odyssey - What My Son’s Neediness Taught Me About Myself

My youngest son has a seemingly insatiable desire for attention from his mom. Sometimes it escalates into awkward neediness, and it hurt me seeing...



February 24, 2022 00:27:57
Episode Cover

129: Those Who Don’t Believe in Magic Will Never Find It

I had an interesting experience recently at 4AM one morning where my hands turned into a tree. Not literally, of course, but they felt...