Imagine having a friend with a drinking problem. You can clearly see they're on a path that'll lead them down a bad road. You offer your help and invite them to stay with you in your home. You'll take care of them so that they can get their life together. Except, that your friend doesn't think they have a drinking problem.
But you insist and convince them to accept your help. You house and feed them, find books, set them up with coaches and support groups... only to find that they keep drinking in your room while you're out working.
What do you think are the chances that this will actually end up helping your friend?
And more importantly: What inner work are you avoiding in your own life by dedicating yourself to this unsolicited rescue mission?
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